This is part of a dating series I was running on another site…it’s being moved here so that I can continue it with everything in one place. Enjoy!I can get caught up thinking about things that don’t have a definite answer and I just bounce back and forth between my conclusions. This is just such a topic. What is cheating? I’ve heard it all; A kiss isn’t cheating, It’s JUST SEX, Emotional affairs aren’t really affairs at all…the list goes on. First response is hard to say because it all depends so much on the situation…doesn’t it? Or…is cheating just cheating? I like to put myself in both scenarios and see how I feel. The two that always hang me up are sexual and emotional cheating. It seems that these two little situations are always being judged against each other.
Scene 1- You know how it is; things are rough and without even realizing it, you’re leaning on your best guy friend who used to have a crush on you in college. Emotionally leaning if you will. You share all of your deepest feelings with him because your significant other no longer seems to have the time and this friend gets you. He becomes the first person you want to share with but you have done nothing physical. Maybe you even want to but have held yourself back. Why? Because you don’t cheat. You hang out all the time and do things together that if you were dating would be considered dates. But you’re not dating so it’s just what…? Too close?
Scene 2- Then you have the sexual dalliance. It could be that you were caught up on a passionate moment that came out of nowhere. Maybe it didn’t mean anything on the surface (whether everything means something is another topic altogether) but it happened, it was over, you love your special person more than words and hey...mistakes happen. But you did let someone else put their P in your V* yes? That’s pretty intense right? Let’s make it even more and say that you continued sleeping with this person. Just sex (to keep things a little even here) with no emotional strings. You rendezvous then head back to your loved one to live your life together.
Which is worse? Is one worse than the other? Is it a matter of personal feelings and dependent on all the nuances of your relationship? I flip-flop back and forth on this one. Sometimes I feel strongly that sex really can be just sex but giving all of your emotions to someone else…well that’s crossing the line. Other times I think emotionshmotion I’m the one they come home to every night and choose to share their life with but SEX…that’s something I can never come back from. That’s the problem…I still can’t find which is worse.
PS: There is no definite answer because its all relevant. To you and your significant other. I’m just not sure how I personally feel about it all. Heave.
*I wrote this entirely from the perspective of a girl and guy relationship and I also wrote from the perspective of the girl. I did this for two reasons 1) I was lazy and wanted to skip all the he/she & him/her stuff annnnnd 2) I really wanted to say “P in your V”. I know, I know. I’m disgusted too. And sorry to all those I left out. I hope you can insert yourself in comfortably enough!
What do you think? Is emotional cheating worse than sexual cheating or are they both equally wrong. Is it pretty straight up that cheating is cheating and there is no hierarchy level? Help a girl out :)